QUESTION?

[Preppy Raver]

is anyone here a product of a divorced family?

[Sangsuri]

Yes.

Not one person in my family is still married to their first spouse.

[manus]

is anyone here a product of a divorced family?

yes and most of my friends that I grew up with were also. next question.

[Preppy Raver]

have you ever been blamed for the divorce or the aftermath?...or blamed for anything related to the divorce?

[Sangsuri]

My mother actually blamed my brothers for our parent's divorce. The fact that she did that out loud (and several times) really fucked up their childhoods.

I used to fight with my stepfather a lot.....she once told me that if they got divorced it would be my fault....but she only said that once.

Why do you ask?

[manny is the man]

My mother told me when she left me and my 3 brothers and 3 sisiters that she hated me.

[Preppy Raver]

recently i have been told by my grandmother, that the reason for my dads failing health is because i choose to stay friends with my mom after the divorce, which btw was 14 years ago. i was also told by my sister that my dad cant stand to look at me cuz i remind him of the heartbreak pain that my mom has caused. anywho, this shit is really starting to bother me, and now it all makes since why i cant get along with him or my sister.

[Sangsuri]

Omigod Katie.......

That is fucked up for them to say that to you.

I know a guy that can't look at his daughter because she resembles his ex-wife too much.....but at least he sucks it up and tries to work through that. That is his problem that he can't get over what happened between him and your mother; not yours.

[Preppy Raver]

Omigod Katie.......

That is fucked up for them to say that to you.

I know a guy that can't look at his daughter because she resembles his ex-wife too much.....but at least he sucks it up and tries to work through that. That is his problem that he can't get over what happened between him and your mother; not yours.

i wish it were that simple...

so for almost half of my life i have had rthe shittiest relationship with both my dad and my sister, because of this...something that i had no control over. what i thing to learn...that my dad despises me.

[Sangsuri]

I'm rendered speechless by that.

I'm so sorry.

[Preppy Raver]

awww, well me too.

[manus]

recently i have been told by my grandmother, that the reason for my dads failing health is because i choose to stay friends with my mom after the divorce, which btw was 14 years ago. i was also told by my sister that my dad cant stand to look at me cuz i remind him of the heartbreak pain that my mom has caused. anywho, this shit is really starting to bother me, and now it all makes since why i cant get along with him or my sister.

Katie, not to be mean, but that is the most hateful thing your grandmother could have said. 1st-You have nothing to do with someone else's relationship and their aftermath of the relationship. 2nd-You should have told you grandmother......... "how dare you try to pin that shit on me?!" "how dare you question my relationship with my own mother?!"


Lately, I have been talking about respect and people having/not having it. This is a lack of respect for you. Your grandmother should have thought about that she was about to say before doing so. Its all in the way someones says it and she did not do a good job.


My parents divorced because they did not get along. At first, my parents use to put a lot of pressure on me and pull me back & forth between them. NOW, I will not stand for that shit. If you have a problem with the other person, then they need to talk it out.

Bottom line: If he/she is heartbroken, then that person needs to deal with their own feelings and talk to the other person.

Sorry katie for the rant.

[debauchery]

My parents were never married! So when people say, "that jewish bastard plays some damn good prog," I say thanks!

[Chad Richey]

lol.. when i went to the military my dad (47), was bangin his secretary (18, that i went to high school with, and she was hot).. so umm ,as soon as i left they got a divorce.. nothing like my mom catching my dad bangin a 18 yr old in a hotel..

[Preppy Raver]

recently i have been told by my grandmother, that the reason for my dads failing health is because i choose to stay friends with my mom after the divorce, which btw was 14 years ago. i was also told by my sister that my dad cant stand to look at me cuz i remind him of the heartbreak pain that my mom has caused. anywho, this shit is really starting to bother me, and now it all makes since why i cant get along with him or my sister.

Katie, not to be mean, but that is the most hateful thing your grandmother could have said. 1st-You have nothing to do with someone else's relationship and their aftermath of the relationship. 2nd-You should have told you grandmother......... "how dare you try to pin that shit on me?!" "how dare you question my relationship with my own mother?!"


Lately, I have been talking about respect and people having/not having it. This is a lack of respect for you. Your grandmother should have thought about that she was about to say before doing so. Its all in the way someones says it and she did not do a good job.


My parents divorced because they did not get along. At first, my parents use to put a lot of pressure on me and pull me back & forth between them. NOW, I will not stand for that shit. If you have a problem with the other person, then they need to talk it out.

Bottom line: If he/she is heartbroken, then that person needs to deal with their own feelings and talk to the other person.

Sorry katie for the rant.

i understand what your saying and i agree with you completely....however, to elaborate on the tyype of person she is, this is one of the comments she made to me when i said i wanted a relationship with my father, "katie, a relationship is not compromise, its commitment!" or in response to her i said "so your telling me that if i marry someone and they turn into a raging alcoholic and start to beat the living shit out of me, im supposed to stay with them because i made a commitment to them? instead of acknowledging the trouble and working on a resolution to fix it"....her response was "YOU TOOK A GOD DAMN OATH"....hence the reason why she and my dad feel the way they do.