Single Life again.

[debauchery]

i would sleep with someone as quickly as possible

[Guest]

I would put all the stuff that reminds you of her....away! Far away...out of sight out of mind right? If you dont want to throw it all away...just put it in an attic or something.

Then go out and have FUN! Do stuff to take your mind off of it. Go out with friends...take up a new hobby...whatever.

Good luck!

[soapscum]

I need to find the right hobby. I guess that is a good next step.
during past breakups ive had a girl on the side waiting to come in. or at least wasn't too upset about the breakup. I lost the "grass is greener" mentality after i lived with this girl for a few years. she grew on me more than i could have imagined.


though in the last year or so ive been more stressed than ever. and paranoid. maybe this will give me some time to relax in my own way.

thanks again peeps.

[Angie]

hey see? You're doing better already.
I definitely know how it feels to have a certain burden lifted from the shoulders. You have to have someone that can encourage you in what you like to do. And you definitely have to know what it is you like to do in order for that to happen. I've suprised myself soooo much in the last 10 to 12 months. Not too sure about that "paranoia" part, but hopefully you'll be able to work thru that.

[debauchery]

as i said before, fuck some random chicks, then work on improving your life and overall well-being, ie. work, school, working out, quitting smoking. Anything positive that you can say down the road, "wow, i would have never been able to do that had we not broke up."

I know all this because i may hold the record for being dumped, and by dumped i mean been served the most restraining orders!

[Angie]

whatever. You don't have restraining orders against you. You are a little slut though. Damn. If you go screw some random chicks, you might get more than a rebound from a breakup. Yuck. I swear, that's your one flaw Ian. Well, that and giving bad advice. I'm sure many guys would agree w/ you. But honestly? does it make you feel better? Not only did you lose your girlfriend, but you replaced her that "easily" by shacking up w/ some random girl. Nice.

[Angie]

not only that, but in regards to what Ian was saying about doing positive things... if you find yourself saying "wow, i would have never been able to do that had we not broke up" then you were definitely with the wrong person.

[christybomb]

Thanks for all the good advice and observations peeps.

I really thought i had everything i could reasonably want in this girl.

I'm 27, have my own house and all, but it hurts just being in an empty house. its weird how things that shoudl make you happy, just make you sad after a breakup.

sometimes it takes a lot of heartache so u can appreciate the right one when she comes yanno?

time heals all...
this too shall pass..

best of luck to u!!!!!!!!!

[down4life2k]

I just recently got out of a 2.5 year jammy myself...so I am feeling you brother. I can say that after the whole dissapointment of the loss and strangeness of being single again, I seem to have become increasingly comfortable with being single, and less and less dependent on other people. Obviously, I don't plan on being single forever...but it has certainly been nice getting back to doing some of the things that I enjoy...and seemed to have lost touch with during that period of time. It is weird how I can actually become dependent on the energy of the relationship...to the point where life is just bizare without it. However, after some time...the daily energy seems to come from within. I don't know. Kinda cool though. I just went off on a major fuggin tangent there...sorry. Anyway, hang in there homie.

[christybomb]

I just recently got out of a 2.5 year jammy myself...so I am feeling you brother. I can say that after the whole dissapointment of the loss and strangeness of being single again, I seem to have become increasingly comfortable with being single, and less and less dependent on other people. Obviously, I don't plan on being single forever...but it has certainly been nice getting back to doing some of the things that I enjoy...and seemed to have lost touch with during that period of time. It is weird how I can actually become dependent on the energy of the relationship...to the point where life is just bizare without it. However, after some time...the daily energy seems to come from within. I don't know. Kinda cool though. I just went off on a major fuggin tangent there...sorry. Anyway, hang in there homie.

AMEN TO THAT!

thanks for sharing.

[hydra]

be prepared to not get any for a long, long time...

[jen t]

DO NOT RELY ON OTHERS FOR HAPPINESS OR SELF WORTH.
or it could be the end of you.
Especially in a "scene". At the end of the day when everyone has become fickle and moved on, you are the only one you have to live with.
Going around sleeping with everyone or looking for a new girl to hang your life on IS NOT THE ANSWER. Get into things you have interests in and hang out with good friends and enjoy the simple things in life.

Then when it happens again (and it will because, hey, that's life) you will be stronger.

Good luck.

[TOY CRUSHER]

I also recommend not taking cliches for advice.

[4james2S.0]

I also recommend not taking cliches for advice.

well here's one anyway

"the best way to get over a girl is to get in another one"

_some older guy I used to work with

[Angie]

hmm....