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Preppy Raver · Post by **Preppy Raver** » May 11 2005 07:36 am

so my mom went out on a blind date last night, to which she was set up by an old friend of hers. well everything was going great and her date and her were getting along fine, and the date flowed smoothly. after it was over, he asked for her number so that he could call her again, to go out another time. she handed him her business card and said call me whenever you want, subsequently thinking he was being smooth, he called the number on the card 10 minutes after they had both left from the date, thinking he was calling her office, not knowing my mom transfers the phone to her cell at night. anyway my mom answered the phone call, and they proceeded to talk a little more, talking about past relationships, their life and such, and that was all fine and dandy, when all of a sudden, he let the cat out of the bag.....he said that he is married.

now my questions are, what kind of friend would set my mom up on a date with someone thats married....does this friend not want my mom to be happy?? and why did this man agree or persue to have a date eventhough he is married....this shit pisses me off....my mom deserves the best, but all she gets is married men, something aint right.

TrixR4Me · Post by **TrixR4Me** » May 11 2005 07:48 am

Maybe the friend didn't know he was married... and He is a man... they get bored or unhappy with the one they are with... So they start searching for something new, while still having there back up around as long as they can keep them... They want there cake and eat diff kinds too....It's very rare to find a guy that won't go out looking for something better or diff.
Sux that your mom had to go through something like that... It just makes her question men even more when put in a situation like that ... and not want to date again for awhile. It's hurtful ...

Preppy Raver · Post by **Preppy Raver** » May 11 2005 07:51 am

TrixR4Me wrote:Maybe the friend didn't know he was married... and He is a man... they get bored or unhappy with the one they are with... So they start searching for something new, while still having there back up around as long as they can keep them... They want there cake and eat diff kinds too....It's very rare to find a guy that won't go out looking for something better or diff.
Sux that your mom had to go through something like that... It just makes her question men even more when put in a situation like that ... and not want to date again for awhile. It's hurtful ...

the friend knew he was married, hell her blind date was with a prominate attorney here in jax, EVERYONE KNOWS HE IS MARRIED, except my mom, apparently.

TrixR4Me · Post by **TrixR4Me** » May 11 2005 07:55 am

Well then the friend is an ass..lol.. unless he/she at least just wanted her to have a male friend to go out with every now and then. At least he did admit at one point and time he was married... Some men won't ... Just trying my best to look at the other side of things..lol.. doesn't seem to be working...
This is something that is usually always around me... married men wanting more then what they have.... telling me they are not happy yet still with the person because they dont want to hurt them... bunch of crock

Preppy Raver · Post by **Preppy Raver** » May 11 2005 07:59 am

TrixR4Me wrote:Well then the friend is an ass..lol.. unless he/she at least just wanted her to have a male friend to go out with every now and then. At least he did admit at one point and time he was married... Some men won't ... Just trying my best to look at the other side of things..lol.. doesn't seem to be working...
This is something that is usually always around me... married men wanting more then what they have.... telling me they are not happy yet still with the person because they dont want to hurt them... bunch of crock

autumn, is this something we need to talk in private about?

well i think that this person set my mom up with a married man, because my mom used to date a married man. the she guy used to date was someone from her past to whom she was engaged to at one point. but damn, its not like that the type of man my mom wants to be with all the time. what kind of future does one have with a married man?? you cant expect them to leave their wives for someone else.

TrixR4Me · Post by **TrixR4Me** » May 11 2005 08:05 am

Nah... I just know my dad isn't a saint which makes my outlook on men a lil icky at times... makes some things hard.. and I try my best to tell myself diff..lol..

And someone has no future with a married man...even if they are working on getting a divorce... you might be the rebound....

Weird thing is one day I still want to get married...go figure..lol.. so yeah ... What does your mom have to say about all this? I know she can't be too happy with her friend right about now... Your such a good daughter and friend Katie to care about your mom so much... Im the same with mine.. Even though my mom can be a pain

CB4 · Post by **CB4** » May 11 2005 08:09 am

TrixR4Me wrote:and He is a man... they get bored or unhappy with the one they are with... So they start searching for something new, while still having there back up around as long as they can keep them...

hey now, that is called a coward, not a man...

that's a pretty crummy story, sux, ain't life grand...

-Sean

TrixR4Me · Post by **TrixR4Me** » May 11 2005 08:13 am

This is true Sean and I apologize to put all men in that catagory... Because not all men are like that...
It does seem there are alot of cowards in this world ( men & women so no one takes offense ) .. and it's so funny to hear the guy say... I was doing it for the girl so she wouldn't get hurt to badly

People are going to get hurt.. weather you do it now or later won't make a diff... just doing things right away makes life easier down the road and the recovery faster..

allmightyone420 · Post by **allmightyone420** » May 11 2005 08:41 am

Your dad went on a date with Eddie Farah!!!

J/k but seriously, that sucks! Your mom is more than likely hot and shouldn't go on blind dates with losers looking for side ass from their wives.

jen t · Post by **jen t** » May 11 2005 09:55 am

[quote="TrixR4Me"]Maybe the friend didn't know he was married... and He is a man... they get bored or unhappy with the one they are with... So they start searching for something new, while still having there back up around as long as they can keep them... They want there cake and eat diff kinds too....It's very rare to find a guy that won't go out looking for something better or diff.

You know, I think thats a cop out that society has let men use for years... WOMEN you deserve the best and NOTHING less....
thats all I'm sayin'...

There are good people out there, unfortunately they are not as easy to find. Makes you appreciate the "keepers" that much more I guess.

TrixR4Me · Post by **TrixR4Me** » May 13 2005 04:29 pm

I deff agree there are alot of good guys out there... I shouldn't judge all guys because of my dad... 2 years ago he left my mom and was a coward about it.... we didn't even talk for months because of how he did everything. I honeslty now just thinking about it and reading all this think that I haven't forgivin him for what he put my mom through. Hence why ever since then I hardly talk to him... I guess I should really try to forgive him so maybe I can be happpier with everything in my life.

It's interesting how you realize things after a day or two of thinking. Don't get me wrong I love my dad... he is a great guy. Just I don't agree with what he did.

Any suggestions on how I can forgive and not think all guys are like that?